The Happiness Trap (And How to Finally Escape It) with Sam Vander Wielen

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Written By Gillian Perkins

WORK LESS, EARN MORE PODCAST EPISODE #351

What happens when you get everything you worked for and it still isn't enough? That's exactly where this week's guest, Sam Vander Wielen, found herself. Sam spent years building a career as an attorney, only to discover that the title, the salary, and the respect that were supposed to make her happy left her miserable instead. So she walked away and built a business from scratch — one that's since made over $10 million from a single digital product. In this episode, Sam and I dig into what she calls "the happiness trap": the belief that once a certain thing happens, we'll finally feel happy, worthy, or at peace. We talk about why that belief rarely holds up, even when the thing you were chasing actually comes true, and what to do instead if you're waiting for "someday" to start feeling better about your life.

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LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE TO HEAR:

  • What the "happiness trap" is, and why almost all of us fall into it without realizing it

  • Sam's story of chasing a law career for the status and security, only to find it made her miserable

  • Why even wild success in her own business didn't automatically deliver the happiness she expected

  • The reason we tend to revert to the same baseline of happiness no matter how much our circumstances change

  • How negativity bias explains why one nasty comment can undo ninety-nine kind ones

  • The "arrival fallacy," and how it can trap you twice — once chasing a career, then again chasing the business meant to replace it

  • Sam's practical steps for building happiness now instead of waiting for "someday," including her "five-second rule" for trying new hobbies

  • Why Sam believes it isn't your job's — or your business's — job to make you happy

  • Her advice for anyone sitting on a business idea right now, and how to find out if people actually want it before you build it

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